Monday, June 25, 2007

Top Ten Myths About Introverts

I am an introvert! There is no mistaking that. I recently stumbled upon this top ten list of myths about introverts and thought I would share it with you. The original blog post is from so I want to give credit where credit is due. I also picked up the book that he recommends called The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World (Kindle Ed. | Paperback). I have not read this yet. When I do, I will give you a full report. In the meantime, take a look at the following list of introvert myths.

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is  not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say.  They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are  interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing  to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of  people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for  the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just  start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often  don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries.  They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is  not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of  pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the  contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can  count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an  introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for  life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance,  you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense.  Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also  like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities.  They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t  need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home,  recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial  for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts  are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot.  They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve.  But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to  share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere  connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are  often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be  valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and  because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most  decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts  are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their  thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying  attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner  world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts  typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places.  Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is  too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are  too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and  Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts  cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural  temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study  (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases  with IQ.


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